Coping with a Problem Child
Who haven’t heard the expression “problem child”, but what exactly is it?
A problem child is somebody that is out of control. If you’re battling with a kid that’s obnoxious, disrespectful or abusive towards you then you really have trouble in your hands.
All children misbehave every once in awhile, but once a child’s behavior constantly causes stress for the family like not holding a party in your house because you’re afraid that your child will act up in front of the guests or walking on eggshells around your kid because he breaks things when he gets mad, then it’s time for some serious intervention.
There must be a lot of ways on the internet regarding how you’ll be able to deal with a defiant child, yet the three ways that I would share are among the most effective to make it happen.
First, parents should start a loving relationship with their child/ children. Many people are working parents and are usually often too tired to spend time playing with our kids, but telling them “I love you” is just not enough. Make the time to play, teach and hear your little one. A stable relationship with the parents is a child’s basis for healthy social development.
Plan in advance. Effective planning is amongst the secrets of getting through a problem child. Childhood is often a series of constant changes and adjustments, but some children are simply not ready for every single one of it. It’s safe to say that behaving badly is a kid’s natural response to difficult challenges.
Understand what your child is capable of doing. Figure out his strengths and weaknesses then use instructions in guiding him and teaching him the skills to cope up with childhood.
Be attentive to your child’s behavior the moment it happens. How you will respond to a certain behavior will always make a great impact on whether your son or daughter is going to do it again. As an example, your child fixed his toys after playing. You praised and thanked him because of this good behavior. Simply because you are happy about this, your little one is sure to do it again.
Let’s turn to another scenario: your kid is jumping on the couch. As you are too busy cooking, you’re actually glad that he’s busy with something instead of troubling you. Several days later, you have guests coming over so you told your kid to quit jumping on which had become his favorite toy – the couch.
Do you think your kid will stop? Hey, you let him played on it yesterday, what’s different with today? In the event you insist, your little one will surely get upset and will just throw a fit. If you stopped him from playing the first time you saw him on the couch, a rule would have been established and he would have understood that the couch is designed for sitting rather than for jumping.
Having to deal with a defiant child is not fun, but parents must do it. With a small push and patience, this problem child would turn into a loving and respectful kid.
