Do You Have a Secret?
Good marriages are made up of healthy components: love, honesty, commitment, understanding, forgiveness, mutual support, financial security, humour, sweetness… (the list could go on forever). If any unhealthy components enter into the mix – elements such as dishonesty or adultery – then it can be very bad news for the marriage.
Marriages are made in heaven and performed in public, yet most of the time they are destroyed in private. Extramarital relationships are a very common cause for the breakdown of marriages. Nobody can stop a person from doing what they want to do with their life, and I am not here to advise, nor to stop anyone in whatever they are doing. If you are conducting an extramarital affair, then regardless of whether or not you get caught, you are on your own. Perhaps you will be lucky – perhaps the umpire will call “No Ball” and you will be given another chance.
I’m not actually talking about cricket, of course, I’m talking about a game that is far more dangerous and risky than cricket: it is a game I call “Hide and Seek”. If it is being played by both parties than it might not be such a big issue, but if it is being played by only one of you, then you are probably feeling very guilty because you have broken your marriage vows and spoiled a contract that was witnessed by all the attendants at your wedding reception.
There is a great deal that can be said about the mistakes people make in a marriage, but in this article I would like to focus on reminding you of the relationship you had before your marriage. Perhaps you have forgotten it by now, but if that is the case, I can guarantee that your partner has not forgotten it and will never forget it for the rest of his or her life. I cannot speak for everyone, but I can express my view that is quite possibly the very best of all the hundreds of Indian wedding service providers in London
The most important and special day of your life is your wedding day. You are the sole owner of your past and the sole owner of all memories of your past, so nobody should have the copyright to these but yourself. You could blow it all if you were to decide to share your secret memories with your new spouse on your wedding honeymoon.
This, in my opinion, could be the beginning of the end of the marriage. I severely doubt it would bring the closeness you may have anticipated, in fact it is possible that your partner might use your disclosure against you in the future, rather than simply being an impartial witness to your confession. If this happens, there may come a point when you will wonder why you didn’t just share your secret with The Great Wall of China.
The one who was your best friend yesterday, could become your biggest enemy tomorrow. I cannot stress enough how important and valuable a good relationship is, so I shall say one thing: if you want to share your secret, and you can’t make it to China, find another wall to share it with.
Why would you trust anyone with information about your past? Perhaps you are brave. Perhaps you are incredibly brave, but my free advice to you is that you don’t have to be brave, in fact it is sometimes better not to be brave. I think it is far better to keep this sort of information buried deep. If this is what you decide to do, then good luck with it.
Of course, this may not be the case. Perhaps none of the above will happen, but it is important to be aware of the risks. I do believe that your past is your own and that it is something that you have the right to keep to yourself. There is no need to add the slightest trace of bitterness to the sweet taste of your marriage dish.
