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Your relationship reading is an in-depth look at your joint Human Design charts. As newcomers to Human Design it will highlight a number of “not-self” issues which can be resolved simply through knowing and understanding certain dynamics between your two very different designs. As we know, we are naturally attracted to the differences in each other! Genes have an imperative to mutate and they do this by choosing two very different people to bring in a mutative being. These readings are designed to explore and honour those differences by allowing each other just to be who they are without any expectation of how we would like that person to be. Then it becomes very easy to not take anything that is said on a personal level, and to not judge the other for something that you might respond to differently.

When you read this it may seem to bring up all sorts of potential difficulties. It’s deliberately designed that way because we are all “not-self” until we have been through the deconditioning process. We judge, we blame and we have expectations of each other. These are generalities, and many people will choose to have readings because they know they have a deep connection with each other and wish to explore the difficult surface issues and misunderstandings. When we are able to acknowledge the individuality of each one of us, then we recognise the gifts we have instead of looking at the faults. We understand why we are in relationship with this person, whether it is for “a reason, a season or a lifetime”. It doesn’t matter; it is all meant to be.

Human Design looks at our genetic potential. It doesn’t take into account social conventions and mental concepts that we have been brought up to believe are the truth. Each person’s perspective, each person’s idea of the truth, is very different according to their own design. For some people relationships last for a lifetime, and for others it is for an appropriate length of time and then it is time to move on. It is the mental and social concepts that have given us a need to conform to what is outwardly acceptable. However this can create chaos within families that should not stay together, and lost opportunities for those who need to bring change in their lives.

Children particularly are able to sense inwardly when the parents’ relationship is no longer functional. We can make a great effort to “pretend” but children are finely tuned to the aura of their parents and instinctively know when there is a breakdown in the relationship. Any “trained” therapist can only use out-dated mental concepts because this is the way our society is structured. In Human Design we understand that the social convention of marriage is just that – an expectation of society. It divides people into small controllable units instead of communities where we are one big family. The pressure to maintain what is perceived as normal may be too difficult for many of us.

We need to look back and feel that we are fulfilled and satisfied in our later years. Within our current social conventions we often feel restricted and stifled. Having our own reading shows us how to break out of the social expectation and just be ourselves. When we are truly behaving naturally then people feel that authentic aura and love us for our quirkiness and individuality. When we try to live according to social expectation something doesn’t feel quite right. We are living a cliched life and this doesn’t serve us or those who love us.

The real truth of whether or not two people are suited to each other can only be seen when they are both authentic. Human Design will help you find this authenticity and can bring relationships to a level beyond our dreams. When we are not authentic we can only be superficial; sometimes we only have the courage to remain on that level in case we touch that raw nerve in the other. Often one partner becomes the caretaker of the other so that the relationship “works” but this is not without a cost. When there is too much work for one partner to make the relationship work it will inevitably suffer. Usually in these relationships the caretaking partner dies sooner in order to escape the enormous amount of effort involved.

True partnerships are mutual. Neither one needs to draw energy from the other. When each is authentic and can completely understand the other then it flows easily. When issues come up to be dealt with it is not a problem; instead of being intense, there is always a funny side and something to gain from the experience.

All this is possible from an understanding of each other’s Human Design!