10 Signs That A Marriage Isn’t Working
Family solicitors remain busy people, despite a recent fall in the divorce rate in the UK. Every marriage goes through its rocky patches and not all of them survive. Whether you’re married and want to know when things are bad or are preparing for marriage and want to know pitfalls to avoid, these 10 signs that a marriage isn’t working may help.
1. A marriage may be in trouble if one partner treats their spouse worse than they are being treated. In other words, if one partner is putting in the effort to make things work the other one isn’t.
2. Every relationship has discussions and some are quite heated, but if the vast majority are ending in a row or argument, then something is wrong.
3. People should feel confident in themselves while married, but if they find themselves more self-assured when not with their partner, it could be a subtle sign of problems.
4. If an argument is resolved, then it should stay in the past. If one partner keeps bringing it up, there could be resentment issues and that’s never good for a relationship.
5. Relationships require compromise from both partners, but if that’s not happening from either (or both) of them, it can spell danger.
6. People change as they get older and lifestyle, moral and ethical values can evolve. If they are no longer shared or compatible with their partner, it could make things difficult.
7. Like with how our beliefs change, so too can the things we want from life. If one partner decides they no longer want children or would prefer to relocate back to their old town, it can make things tough.
8. Film, media and even mothers can give people high and unrealistic expectations of what they want in a spouse. If one partner finds it difficult to live up to those standards, they may start to feel inadequate.
9. Two cornerstones of every good relationship are trust and respect. If they’ve started to disappear from a relationship, perhaps as a result of infidelity or unemployment, it can be difficult to get it back.
10. If one partner prefers to spend more time with friends or even at work than at home with their husband or wife, then it’s a sign something is definitely wrong in the relationship.
If you are married and these scenarios strike a chord, then working hard to save the marriage should obviously be your initial concern. However, if these problems have gone past the point of return, you may want to speak to an experienced family solicitor or divorce solicitor about your situation.
