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Parenting children with changing child behaviour can be very challenging! Especially if your kid has a changing child behaviour problem.

Changing child behaviour is a term that is used to describe the changes that our kids suffer from at all the transitional stages of their lives. Most parents want to be able to manage and / or change their child’s behavior during these transitional stages, and many parents are continually frustrated because the results of their diligent parenting efforts are poor.

One of the most important things a parent needs to understand is that we cannot change our kid’s behavior, nor can we change their basic personality. What we are able to do is teach out kids new skills and alternative ways of doing things, and by doing so, your children will learn the skills that they need to be able to be accountable for their own behaviors and actions. Accountability is very powerful and is a great trait to teach your kids.

Following are some simple, but most effective tips that will help you to manage your child’s changing behaviour by teaching them new skills.

Be firm, be clear, and be direct – You need to be firm, clear and direct when you are dealing with the bad behavior of any child. Explain that their behaviour is not good in a direct and super clear way. Children don’t handle being lectured, so it is better to keep it as clear and as simple as humanly possible.

Theatrical presentations need to be ignored. So put a stop to the show – You may find that your child is misbehaving badly or throwing tantrums when there is an audience, like when you visit friends or go shopping. If this is the case, stop whatever you are doing and go home. It is harsh, I know, especially if you have already planned to be busy for the entire day. If it means that your other kids are going to miss out, then you should take your misbehaving child to his grandmothers house or something and enjoy the rest of your day. But you need to make it clear to your child that if he or she misbehaves, that there will be NO exciting, enjoyable activities for the rest of the day.

Ensure your child’s honesty by issuing consequences for lying – If your child is lying about stuff, then you simply just need to create some consequences for the action. Consequences may include giving your child a time out, or taking away their games for a period of time. Never ignore lying, because it can become a much more serious problem in future years.

Make your family values clear – Every family unit has family values, so take the time to communicate to your kids what your families values are. Children may find it difficult to understand values, but if they are ingrained into them at an early age, they will learn to instinctually adhere to them.

Allow for thought errors, don’t just think of everything as an Excuse – Have a quick think about all the times that your child has struggled to come up with excuses to justify his / her bad behavior. More often than not, children do not think about what they are saying, and what you identify as being an excuse, may seem to be a perfectly logical explanation to them.

It is better not to argue over your child’s explanations of his / her bad behaviour. Instead, you must focus on the thinking process that has led them to deliver such an explanation. NOT the actual explanation. Wherever possible you should be trying to help your child to understand that what they have done is not acceptable and then praise them for understanding. Better still, teach them an alternative way of explaining their actions.