How to Get Through Holidays Without a Loved One
Not sharing a Holiday with a loved one or friend is hard enough but the loss of one is even harder.
It is not just the death of a loved one than can cause us pain but having gone through an unwanted divorce can cause grief as well. How do we get through Holidays without them? First and far most is to not dwell on the lost but focus on the event. Grief only last as long as we will allow it so take control of the situation, spend time with other family members and friends they know what has happened and they will be sensitive to our feelings. They will try to bring joy to us so we should allow them to do it.
If we do think of our lost love, it should be in a positive manner. Think of them with joy and that will strengthen us, even if there were a bitter divorce, at one point there was some joy in the relationship.
Do not change our routine just because a Holiday has come, do what we have done before the Holiday that was what has helped us in the first place. Just because it is a Holiday, does not regress but put your best foot forward. That day is only twenty-four hours just like all the other days and we have managed to get through them.
Twenty some years ago my Daddy died in December, we buried him around the 15th. Christmas was coming soon and I was not looking forward to it because I had never been without him before so I was apprehensive but when that day came the family gather as usual, opened our gifts and ate a feast. We did not dwell on the fact that Daddy was gone and it turned out to be an enjoyable day.
Life goes on and we determine what we will make of it, no one can do it for us. We have to make it worthwhile and we can. We might want to stay in bed with the covers pulled up over our head but that is not a good thing to do because it will only lead to Depression. Staying active is the best thing that we can do for ourselves.
It is a true saying that time heals pain and it does. In time, the situation will get better and we will grow stronger but until them, keep active and focus on the future. God knew that situation would happen and He has prepared a solution for us. We would need to seek it out and follow it because His word said I will never leave you nor forsake you. Jesus said Lo, I am with you always even unto the end of the Earth. Therefore, we can take comfort in knowing that we are not along even if our loved one is no longer present with us.
