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If I were to list all the emotions we feel as human beings, then that would take up all the space for this article. I will just mention a few and then mention the ways I got help with my emotions, when I had some problems.

First, what are emotions? They are how we feel and the ways we express them when we have to react to a situation or feeling. So we have the whole gamut of emotions which can go from anger, guilt, love, sadness, laughter, surprise, hate, frustration and fear. Every day we react to situations and events which happen to us or affect us at first hand. But more importantly we react to people and the way they interact and treat us.

We may get angry at stupid or careless drivers and react by shouting or cursing them. Or we may have a more moderate reaction just by leaning on the klaxon. We may be angry with our colleagues or we may be bullied or we may be terrified at the thought of doing a presentation in front of the new boss.

So, we can react in various ways, as I said, using the example of the stupid driver. But that is nothing compared with very strong emotional reactions when much more is at stake. We may become aggressive and furious and that is when danger lurks. Why? Because that is when we are likely to make a bad decision which we will probably regret later on. So, it all boils down to how we react and how we control our emotions. Lucky children can get away with tantrums, kicking and biting. As adults we do not have that luxury!

So, how did I get help with my emotions? I had a very good counsellor who taught me various tricks of the trade, so to speak. First, she told me to always predict certain situations and also to prepare my reactions to them. In that way, I could see the situation coming and I had a few calm, sometimes sarcastic replies up my sleeve. But negative reactions such as getting angry, yelling and banging the door were out. Who is in control, she would ask me, you or your emotions?

The second way she gave me help with my emotions was to suggest that I did not react to words or insults in the same way. This is all about keeping my cool and being able to step back from these challenging situations.

The third way she gave me help with my emotions was to tell me to stay focused. That needs concentration and at times, it means fighting some very strong emotions which are bubbling to the surface like an erupting volcano. It also meant cultivating
positive thoughts and keeping them to the forefront.

So, these are just three ways to help control our emotions. But at times, we will need a helping hand to deal with depression, bad news, frustration and all the other things life throws at us. Why not click through to my website where I describe some life changes and also herbal remedies which will help create positive thoughts and to control our emotions rather the other way around.